Invited or Dragged: How Growth Finds Us Either Way
Transformation has a way of arriving in two distinct forms. Sometimes it chooses you—through upheaval, loss, disruption, or a sudden unraveling—and when it does, resistance is futile. You can’t outrun it, outthink it, or keep your old life intact. Other times, transformation is something you choose—a conscious commitment to growth, evolution, and becoming. And in many ways, that path is even more challenging, because it requires overriding the ego’s fierce attachment to what is familiar.
In this episode, Haydn and Terry explore five core dimensions of this “choose or be chosen” dynamic, including the mysterious way life conspires through circumstances to initiate us. Haydn shares his own experience of being “chosen” and the profound dark night of the soul that followed.
Whether you’re navigating a difficult season or standing at the threshold of intentional change, this conversation offers guidance for moving through the discomfort and into genuine transformation.
Suffering can be a powerful teacher—but it isn’t the only one. Growth can also come through choice, aspiration, and joy. The deeper truth is this: what you are seeking, you already are. This episode invites you to remember that, embody it, and begin living from that knowing.
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