What to Do When You Don’t Know What to Do: Learning to Surrender Control

One week before their first consciousness conference, the result of 12 years of Haydn’s life's work, Haydn ruptured his Achilles. Fifty people were flying in, and the venue was paid for, and he couldn’t stand. Terry did what most of us would do. She tried to carry the event on her shoulders. Then one word silenced the chaos swirling in her mind: surrender.

When you’ve done everything you know to do, what’s left? In this episode, Haydn and Terry tell the real story of what happened next. They explore why surrender isn’t defeat but the high point of a spiritual path built on three movements: aspiration, equanimity, and surrender. They also discuss what spirituality looks like in the middle of everyday life, away from dogma and away from retreat.

The plans that fall apart are often the doors to something truer.

In this episode:

  • Why surrender is not the same as giving up or throwing in the towel

  • How to take action and make choices without clinging to control

  • The difference between equanimity and equality in the teachings of Sri Aurobindo and the Mother

  • Why the obstacles in our way can be hidden doorways to transformation

  • Wisdom from Karlfried Graf Dürckheim’s The Way of Transformation on the “dignity of daring”

Join us in person:

The Gnostic Circle and the Journey of the Soul, a one-day workshop on Saturday, November 21.

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